EXCLUSIVE: First Victim of Coach John Comes Forward

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Last week news broke of Coach John of Infamous Dancerettes was charged with criminal exposure to HIV, soliciting sexual exploitation of a minor and statutory rape by an authority figure.

Rumors were that of one of the possible victims may have been one of his male dancers of his team. The allegations were serious and some of the information being put out wasn’t adding up.

One of the victims who is not on the team and is not a minor spoke with me about his relationship with Coach John. Our conversation carried on for more than 30 minutes. The victim discussed his disappointment with John and how his life has changed since testing positive for HIV earlier this year. He also says he was the first person to press charges on John Conner III and almost didn’t.

He wanted to share his story to educate queer black men and others so situations like these don’t happen as often. He only asks that his name and personal information is not shared. I agreed.

How did you and John first meet?

“We met on Facebook. I reached out to him towards the end of last year (2015) him it was nothing serious it was just talking online. At the end of February, I told him that ‘I got to come visit you one day’ and he was like ‘that’s ok that’s cool’. I ended up taking a day off work and went out there and got a hotel room.”

Before you all had sex, did you ask John about his HIV status or did the conversation of  STDs or HIV come up?

“No, I didn’t because in my mind at the time I didn’t think it would get to that. I didn’t think we were going to have sex. I thought we were just going to hang out. He woke me up around 4am and we had sex.”

What made you get tested for HIV after having sex with John?

“It was a big blow up on Facebook and I found out that he was trying to talk back to his ex. His ex contacted me through Facebook and told me to call him. He was telling me how John was trying to get back with him. I told him I was just out there last week and we had been having sex unprotected. He was like he told me last year that he was HIV positive. So after everything he told me that I didn’t want to talk to him anymore. So I asked him what was this all about him being HIV positive and he just took a deep breath and kind of avoided the question.”

The victim said he had been feeling sick before having a conversation with the ex about John being HIV positive but wasn’t sure if it was just because of the weather change. However, after the conversation with the ex, he decided to get tested. He googled some of the symptoms and was having most of them.

A trip to the Dr. showed a positive test result for HIV. The victim tells me he tested positive in May (2016) and filed charges later that month. Before making the appointment the victim said he made several attempts to ask John was there something that he needed to tell him before he got tested. He also provided screenshots of that conversation.


Screenshots of the story of about him visiting Coach John were also provided from his messages through Facebook.


One of the main reasons for the victim being hesitant about going forward to press charges was that he didn’t think people were going to believe him. Throughout Facebook and other social media, you could hear “LIES” and “Somebody lying on him” throughout the comment sections. Many would blame the victim before hearing their side of the story.

I could hear responsibility in his voice when we talked. He knows that he should have protected himself while he was having sex with John. This is a lesson we all can take. Never put your life in the hands of someone else. It is both sexual partners job to have a conversation about sex before having it. Talk about HIV, STDs and previous sexual partners with him or her. No one should feel ashamed for wanting to know or if someone asks them. The more we get comfortable talking about sex & HIV the faster we can end the stigma. And by ending the stigma we can truly begin to end HIV.

John posted on his Facebook that he was undetectable which some were questioning.

What was his response when you told him that you were HIV positive?

“When I was at the doctor. I found out instantly. I called him crying and he told me to stop crying. He said he was crying ’cause he was at work at the time. He was like ‘call me when you leave’. So when I left, he went ahead and told me everything. He said he knew he had HIV at the time and he thought he was undetectable and ‘I didn’t think you could catch it’. I told him ‘why didn’t you just tell me we could have both made sure we used condoms’. I knew it was partially my fault but [he] knew you had it.”


Do you think John was undetectable? 

(Essentially, ‘undetectable’ refers to when an HIV-positive person has a negative result on a blood test. This can only happen when they consistently take their prescribed antiretroviral medication. When someone is undetectable–only a doctor can provide this information–they are much less likely to pass on HIV to another partner.)

“When we used to hang out all day, not once did I see him take medication or sneak off to take medication. There was no indication that he was on medication.”


What made you file charges?

“[…]He didn’t want me to tell my mother. My mother is like my best friend. I ended up telling her. My family and stuff that knew said that he needed to pay for this. It could’ve been more than just me. And it’s a total of 4 people that I was told by my detective.”


Are you on medication?

“Yes, I started taking medication in August and I’m now undetectable. I have family and friends who are supporting me through this time.”


John is still in jail and his charges have now jumped from 2 criminal exposure HIV charges to now three. His court day was today. No word yet on how the trial went but I will be sure to update as the story develops. screen-shot-2016-09-23-at-10-12-04-am

The victim discussed with me that he was the first one to file charges and that after he did, the 17-year-old victim filed in the month of August. The case is still developing.

A video interview is in the works with the victim. As he said he would like to talk more in detail. What are some of the questions you would ask him? Let me know in the comment section below.



    September 23, 2016 at 2:14 pm

    The coach should be punished. His careless actions and lack of consideration for others and their lives has caused someone to undergo life changing circumstances. Just as murder is not an excuseable crime this shouldn’t be either. No matter what sexuality you have chosen every life matters. No matter who you are or what type of fame you have you should be held equally accountable…
    Sad. Praying for the victims.

  2. Lychale

    September 23, 2016 at 2:24 pm

    No questions really. Just shock.

  3. JJFats

    September 23, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    Who made you a reporter? He should tell his story to someone credible and who is mentally stable, which you are neither.

    • Justin J

      September 23, 2016 at 3:52 pm

      All the way from Bellevue, Washington on a T-Mobile phone. Thank you 🙂

      • Tracee

        September 23, 2016 at 5:06 pm


      • Blessed

        September 23, 2016 at 9:03 pm


    • Richard

      September 23, 2016 at 11:12 pm

      It shouldn’t matter who made him a reporter. The correct response should be thanks for the information. This could happen to anyone. I’m fortunate and blessed that I haven’t had this experience and more-so it makes me not even want to have sex anymore. There’s a lot of people out there that will not tell you, if you don’t ask. I’m grateful and thankful for the information. However, I am sorry this has happened to Justin and I will continue to keep him in my prayers. I have a couple of friends with this same condition and I pray daily for them to be able to live in this society that do not frown on them or treat them any different, but I always tel them to tell their partners or people they come into contact with if it gets to that level. Stay Blessed folks and try not to tear down each other. Our LGBT community is all we have. Let’s try and get along with one another and up-build each other.

  4. Zo

    September 23, 2016 at 4:32 pm

    Soooooooooo happy that the victim contacted you because you are more likely to shine light on the importance of using protection and informing ones partner of any existing disease. It is truly sad that this was the end result and I pray that the young boy continues to fight through this. Hopefully this will encourage people to use protection and get themselves and their partner(s) tested frequently. Thank you Justin.

  5. Tara Morris

    September 23, 2016 at 4:47 pm

    Justin great reporting I think you missed your calling.. you should be a journalist this was a great interview keep up the good work!!!

    • Justin J

      September 23, 2016 at 5:13 pm

      Lol I thinking I’m doing that now boo

      • Tara Morris

        September 23, 2016 at 7:25 pm

        I know you are but you need to be on TV News because you get the Scoop You are a Beast with it!!! CBS needs Justin J

        • Nikki

          September 24, 2016 at 6:49 am

          I agree, After this goes viral(which it will) we can petition to make that happen. This platform as well as youtube is his Journalism space. I have seen this site and his youtube grow and become very polished/reputable.

          I can see him on major television.

          • Justin J

            September 24, 2016 at 12:48 pm

            Thank you Nikki!

  6. Kyng_cam86

    September 23, 2016 at 5:05 pm

    I just wanna know why the victim has Johns number saved under “bae j”? That seems kinda weird to me…..I’m not excusing what John did, but just from that part, I can tell that boy had some sort of feelings for John….but in any case, John should have informed him on his status. Knowing the epidemic that plagues some of the gay community, how could a grown man be so careless and “think” that he was undetectable? Just sad

    • A.M.

      September 23, 2016 at 5:57 pm

      It seems like they were in a relationship or were at least dealing with each other for an extended amount of time, which makes it even more confusing as to why John would not disclose his status.

  7. Gogo11224

    September 23, 2016 at 5:32 pm

    In this gay lifestyle you are ALWAYS suppose to be protected point blank…yes he is absolutely wrong and should’ve told that boy his status but that boy should’ve known better then to sleep with anybody unprotected they’re are both wrong…wrap it up

    • Jason

      September 24, 2016 at 11:46 am

      I agree

  8. Mr. Belvedere

    September 23, 2016 at 6:21 pm

    Gogo11224 ur are so right. Yes John was wrong for not telling his status but they guy new better. I know him and his mom had that talk about sex and always use condoms. I notice especially in the gay community that we never really talk about status before having sex. We jus assume that they are negative. Assuming will get u in a lot of trouble .

    • Jason

      September 24, 2016 at 11:46 am


  9. cissy

    September 23, 2016 at 7:48 pm

    This was a great interview, keep up the god work.

  10. Blessed

    September 23, 2016 at 9:06 pm

    Hi Justin I was just wondering do you know if John was having sex also with some of the girls on his team?

  11. JB

    September 24, 2016 at 8:38 am

    The victim plays a part as well. We all have to be responsible for ourselves. If you’re old enough to have sex, you’re old enough to practice it responsibly…. Yea you’re underage but youre staying all night in hotels with men… John as the older party, the adult, and a COACH should have been more responsible than he was. When I played sports in high school. The coach did more than teach plays and how to win, they taught life lessons and how to become mature young men and eventually adults. I guess now they’re coaching to screw the students #sad

    • Justin J

      September 24, 2016 at 12:47 pm

      This victim was of age. As I said it is both individuals responsibility to protect themselves while engaging in sexual activities. John was in a position in authority. The blame lies with him when it comes to having sex with underage teams if he did.

  12. Sheree

    September 24, 2016 at 10:51 am

    Just because there are criminal charges pending, I DON’T think the victim should do a video interview. It can make his testimony less credible during the criminal trial. The State’s Attorney should have advised him not to, but maybe they haven’t reached out. While I get the purpose of wanting to get the story out, I think the criminal and/or civil trials should play out before you publish a video interview. A defense attorney could eat him up at trial and I would hate for the victim to NOT have justice because of this. P.S. I am an attorney.

    • Justin J

      September 24, 2016 at 12:45 pm

      I completely agree and thought about it. We shall see but thank you.

  13. Luckey F Starr

    September 24, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    Alright on the exclusive…you betta werk!

    On the subject at hand, they say what is done in the dark will come to the light. These grown ass men betta stop fuckin’ these youngins and not tell them their status. Attempted murder at it’s best. Of course he is innocent until proven guilty…

    FYI are you aware that the number is visible in those texts?

  14. Antwan

    September 24, 2016 at 8:11 pm

    Nooooooooobody deserves this… let’s make that a fact. Those of us who are POSITIVE didn’t ask for it but of course could have done things to prevent it. The sad thing is most of us have and know the information on prevention but we are soooooooooo afraid of NOT hooking up that we do not straight-muthafukkin-up ask that nigga….WHAT IS YOUR STATUS??!!!

    This is to not excuse what he and many other men do..but we, especially in the black gay community still delavue, diminish, and marginalize people who are POz……we would rather ASSUME he is negative just cause it’s in their profile or because they said they were NEGATIVE.

    We’d prefer the lie and fantasy that EVERYONE we sleep with is NEGATIVE …and continue to bareback…instead asking the tough question and protecting YOURSELF regardless of what they say

    This article puts the REALITY of the times in people’s face and forces us to look and reevaluate our own sexual behaviors. Your sexual health be it neg or poz is YOUR responsibility. KUDOS J!!!!!!

  15. Being Fare

    September 24, 2016 at 8:39 pm

    OK from both stand points. It’s wrong to have unprotected sex.. Point taken. But as we all know HIV can and usually stays dormant for sometimes years before surfacing. So although John was/ is positive, who’s to say that he was the only individual this youngan was having unprotected sex with. And who’s to say he wasn’t already infected prior to this incident. Again it’s sad either way and we all need to be thoroughly educated but let’s at least be fare when discussing who’s at fault.. Just a random thought.

  16. Quincy Jones

    September 24, 2016 at 9:49 pm

    Yall don’t know what yall are talking about..John didn’t do this!

    • Telling the truth

      September 26, 2016 at 6:30 am

      Quincy Jones Bitchhhhhhh the proof is in the pudding hoe… Y’all kill me quick to take up for the ppl that y’all KNOW doing wrong… This shit been going on for years in Memphis and alot of other cities… Older guys having sex with these young kids… Why can’t they fuck with someone of they own age.. I’ll tell you why.. cause the ppl of their age already know they tea, these young kids thts just coming out don’t knw anything about them and true they are tooooooo hot in the ass but as an adult someone 27,28,29 pushing 30 I can’t see myself laying up with a 16 or 17 hell even 18 year old… What can they do for me or offer me?? John and other older guys travel to atl and Dallas and other places meet these kids from jackd and Facebook and fuck them and then think they’ll never see em again or it won’t get traced back to them…. this time it finally caught up with someone he isn’t the first and he for damn sure won’t be the last

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